Dear Michael, In my own case, I didn’t rush into this relationship. I’ve always been a cautious person, and right from my younger years, I knew how delicate relationships could be. I wasn’t even pressured to be in a relationship or actively searching for romance. But Love came my way, and I hopped on it […]
Relationship & Love Series: Breakfast In Bed
I think that it is essential that I let you know that this isn’t an attempt to smear your name in the mud, neither is it a way to apportion blames, and I hope that if you do stumble on this, you would still think of me as a gorgeous smart blondie. I believe that […]
We Pick Up Broken Things…
And so we keep pulling and pulling, drawing and stretching this cord called life until it snaps. And in that moment when it snaps, there is no going back. You cannot call 911. You cannot call the police. You cannot call anybody because what is done is done and who is dead is dead. It […]
Of Marriage and Babies and Bills and PTA Meetings…
OF MARRIAGE… She is walking elegantly. She is walking with the confidence of a queen and the boldness of a lion. Her hair is golden, like a mane. She does not seem to care that she has suddenly become a source of attention and the whole hospital waiting room has lost its control. All eyes […]
On Feminism: Is It Just?
“What is your view on feminism?” It was the first time someone genuinely asked me that question without the mocking glint that usually accompanies such a question. Without judgment, without anticipating argument, not goading me to say the wrong thing. It was just a genuine interest to know my thoughts I won’t lie I always […]
I Am Going To Break Into You
I wanted to title this What Else Do You Want Me To Say. But I had to change it to this. Some days ago, I messaged Flower and told her I needed to get a blog post out this week. It had been a while I published something here and even though I have a […]
#Letter: Tubes and Bras
Dear Uzo, Yes, only family can call us Uzo. I have been given a once in a lifetime opportunity and time is short, so I’ll be quick about it. You’re 15 now. Life is good. Just recently, you got a boyfriend. Your first. Elesha. See you smiling already at the mention of his name. Wake […]
#Letter: Five Sachets of Water and Eggs
My dear 15-year-old self, You’re in a lot of mess and you can’t see farther than this year. Life always seems that way, that’s why we take life one step at a time. It is a crime to be friends with a boy in your school and everyone is talking about you. You didn’t do […]
Looking Into The Past
How am I even going to come here and lie to you all that it did not happen again, that the inevitable did not happen once again? How do these things happen? How do you go for an event and leave your heart behind? And then a black lady picks it up, sees all the […]