#Letter: Tomorrow Always Takes Care of Itself
This is me from the future (it’s really just 7 years but it is still the future you get). Babe a lot has happened in these seven years but let me give you the major highlights.
So you just finished from Pharmacy in OAU, not UNIBEN and you didn’t finish school before 21. Fun-fact you are not going to serve till next year so your dream of finishing everything before 22 is a colossal joke. You did very well in your WAEC, your biggest hurdle now and you actually did Predegree in OAU, not A’levels as you were hoping will be the alternative if you messed up in JAMB and girl you messed up big time (your score makes me laugh till date). One thing for sure I can tell you is that making you do Predegree was one of the best decisions your parents ever made for you as that began your sweet journey into pre-adulting.
Those babes you thought you guys will be BFFs forever you actually don’t talk to them anymore, like that Charlie Puth’s song (Yeah you now listen to “secular” songs with your chest even in your father’s house, even with a loudspeaker). You all grew apart, sucks right? But that is life. Plus, you made better friends in school.
Babe, you know one thing you did after leaving secondary school is that you grew. Some people call it change (in that judgmental tone) but you actually did change, the good type and I am proud of you for that. One of the changes you made was that you stopped seeing life from just your perspective and you actually made efforts to learn from other people. You are now what some may tag feminist and I tell you it is a very good cause to believe strongly in. You now drink, by the way. Shocking right? Who would have thought that would ever happen in a million years?
You remember all those your talks of facing your education in the university and not having a significant other till 300 level? Well, you stuck with it. In fact, you almost did not like anyone till your 400 level and I tell you when you did love, you know what happened? It ended almost three months after and then you vowed not to like anyone again and stick to being alone. Well, that didn’t happen either. You became quite loose with your likeness and you liked three people at once for months and you were talking to all of them at the same time. It was quite fun I tell you, but stressful.
Ayomide, there will be a time in the future when you would have to question your belief and this time was particularly rough for you. It almost coincided with the end of a friendship which was quite messy because it happened in church. You had no one to confide in again because that went with the friendship. You had almost no one around you to talk to honestly about how you felt but you did pull through. Maybe not as wholly as you would hope but you came out of it.
Failure that you think is somewhat far from you now because you are topping your class is about to be something you will deal with frequently. If you think JAMB is the only time you would fail in your years of being a student, then let me tell you that you are very wrong. You failed a couple of times that it began to affect your esteem but you were able to move past it and you did that gracefully. You failed in your first contact Predegree; your 100 level results were short of being horrible; you had two resits in your first year in pharmacy school, and other times when having exactly 50 in an exam was one of your happiest moments.
You also had lots of wins that are worth mentioning. One is never having to repeat any year in pharmacy school, having to juggle being a class rep with your business (yes, you have a business), and also making meaningful relationships with both your classmates and lecturers. You got over your self-esteem issue that you almost became too smug; and many others that I cannot remember now.
If there is any advice I will give to you now is that you should always remember to live in the moment because tomorrow almost always takes care of itself. Don’t over-analyze things every time, somethings are just how they appear. Logic is good but there are times when you should let emotions trump too (remember I said sometimes, not all the time). Create beautiful memories and love passionately.
With plenty of love from your future self
Sent in by Aliu Ayomide Tomilola